Will Smithplanned a huge 40th birthday bash for his wifeJada Pinkett Smith— but it ended up as anything but a celebration.

On a new episode of Facebook Watch’sRed Table Talk, Smith, 50, revealed that he considered Pinkett Smith’s 40th birthday, when she was experiencing a self-described “midlife crisis,” as the “low-point” in his marriage.

“The day after her 37th birthday, I hired a team to orchestrate her 40th birthday,” Smith said to Pinkett Smith, daughterWillow Smithand mother-in-lawAdrienne Banfield-Jones.

“I hired a documentary team. I traced Mommy’s family roots. Her 40th birthday was going to be my thing,” Smith explained. “It was going to be a splash.Mary J. Bligeperformed. I debuted the film. It was gonna be the thing that lifted her out of this midlife crisis. It was gonna be my deepest, most beautiful proclamation of love.”

Smith had found voice recordings of Pinkett Smith’s late grandmother that he played at the party. “She’s listening to these never-before-heard tapes of one of the dearest people she’s ever known in her life in front of all of these people,” he said. “The whole time I’m like the little boy that wants Mommy to say everything was wonderful. She’s having a really difficult, emotional time.”

Pinkett Smith, 47, reached her breaking point after the party, when she told Smith to cancel their plans for the next day. “She’s like, ‘It’s my birthday!’ She told me that the party was the most ridiculous display of my ego. Crushed, right? To this day I know I was crushed because it was true. It wasn’t a party for her. And when she called me on that, that’s when I snapped … the only time in [Willow’s] childhood she ever saw me snap.”

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“There was so much that wasn’t me that I was living,” Pinkett Smith added. “So much inauthenticity.”

Even though the conversations onRed Table Talkare ultra-personal, Pinkett Smithtold PEOPLE earlier in Octoberthat she does not find them uncomfortable.

“That’s really how we talk on a daily basis,” Pinkett Smith said. “That’s why it’s not difficult for us. It’s how we communicate.”

“I always leave feeling like I’ve learned something from them,” Banfield-Jones said. “I love coming to their house. I love coming to L.A. and spending time with them because I just leave so filled up.”

source: people.com